Being a Stepparent isn’t easy

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Being a Stepparent isn’t easy, of this, I am completely sure.

Instead of loving just one person, it could be two or three or more.

The family is ready built, for you to be a part of,

but first, you must respect, where the family started off.

This family use to be whole before it split in two,

And even though it wasn’t your fault the kids will still blame you.

They will paint you as the worse person to ever walk the earth,

But this is because deep down they carry a lot of hurt.

Being a stepparent isn’t easy, of this, I am completely sure.

There will be plenty of times you will want to run for the door.

But if you want to earn their trust, they have to know your there.

So be prepared for your parenting to be met with an icy glare.

They’ll say “You’re not my parent, you can’t tell me what to do!”

When this happen stand your ground because they should respect you.

You may not be their parent, but you open up your heart to them,

And it not ok for them to throw that out in every silly argument.

Being a stepparent isn’t easy, of this, I am completely sure.

But the reward of them accepting you is worth so much more.

It won’t happen overnight, so don’t be in a rush.

Because they will resist, the more you try to push.

Just give them time and let them know you will always be there,

Play games with them, engage with them and show them you care.

Don’t try to replace their parent, instead just be their friend,

Because that’s all they will really want in the end.

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32 comments

  1. Sandra says:

    Beautiful sentiment. As someone who put her stepdad through hell as a teenager, can say with some authority that it’s the right attitude. He’s been dead many years and I still miss him every day.
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  2. Sarah Swan says:

    I loved this. I’m not a stepparent. However, my partner is my children’s stepdad. Their biological dad isn’t in their life so my children have treated their stepdad any worse then they do me lol Being a parent in general is hard. Thank your sharing your heart.

  3. DogVills says:

    I know a friend who’s a step parent and she always confess with me that her situation wasn’t easy but I’m glad that she can handle it.

  4. Elizabeth O. says:

    I’ve never had experience with being a step parent but I’ve seen how friends have struggled through it. I think it’s admirable what step parents do, it’s not easy to love a child that isn’t yours.

  5. Kate Williams says:

    I think being a step parent is really really hard, but having two of my own I know that even as a kid I didn’t blame them for what happened. Sometimes we all say things we don’t mean when we are angry though – keep going, it’s worth it in the end!

  6. Verily Victoria Vocalises says:

    This is brilliantly written. I have seen how Ross has had to get used to being a step-dad to my daughter. Thankfully she was only 4 years old and only lived with her father until she was 3 months – so Ross had nothing to live up to. He has found it so hard though. I have the utmost admiration for anyone who takes on this role. Your words have expressed it so well. Thank you for linking to Prose for Thought x

  7. John Adams says:

    As a step child, I just had to read this. I think us step kids can be very reticent about speaking out publicly but I can assure you it is no easier accepting a step-parent into your life! The relationship between step parent and step child is exceedingly complicated. I just wish more step dads would speak publicly about the experience as the focus is very often on step mums and step daughters. I think we have Disney’s Snow White to thank for this! Inspring post, thank you.

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